Today we will share some helpful tips to manage your cohesive attachment style “Relationship addiction” is another term for tolerance. It is a mental and emotional state that makes it difficult for both of them to establish a long-term, mutually beneficial relationship. You can take steps to break the cycle of tolerance, even if it is unpleasant and destructive.
The first use of the word co-dependency was to describe the partner of a person who has an addictive behavior that enables or encourages the addiction to continue. Over time, the term has expanded to include individuals who maintain one-sided, psychologically abusive, or abusive relationships that do not require strict intimacy.
Keep your dependencies in perspective
Many of the characteristics considered “coexistent” in individualistic societies are embraced by collective civilization. Examples included Sacrifice for the greater good, Putting others first, and paying careful attention to the needs of others. This does not mean that you are a weak person who has somehow “failed” to take care of yourself, but rather that you have a supportive relationship. It means that you are a survivor of the relationship.
The psychological effects of coexistence may also be observed. It often begins in childhood, when the tendency to “integrate” with the needs of others serves as a way to connect with caregivers who, despite their best efforts, were unable to put your needs above their own.
Find ways to better understand these parts of yourself. You can find different types of romantic meditation and audio on the web or through various mobile apps.
Find out what your real needs are
Identify what you really need from what you fear or avoid. Which of the following is more important: Make sure you don’t over-donate or burn yourself to avoid rejection at any cost? ” Whether you want to avoid making mistakes or not, do you need to relax and allow yourself to be human at this point? Stop, take a breath, and take a moment to reflect on what you really need. See some additional resources on the importance of putting yourself first when managing tolerance Here.
Communicate in a clear, direct way
Learn to communicate with others in such a way that there is as little room for explanation as possible by learning to be direct without fear. Instead of saying “I’m getting sleep” when someone asks if you’re available, answer, “I’m not available tonight.” The first step in effective communication is to establish an open channel of communication in your mind. Don’t limit your public image to just being “beautiful,” “peacekeeping,” or “diplomatic.”
Let go of your desire for a definite result
It demands a willingness to accept ambiguity and the possibility of not knowing what will happen. Code reliance can only be defeated through continuous practice, so make sure you do it regularly. The fear of disappointing someone whose opinion is relevant to you is part of continuing the cycle of tolerance. Taking the risk of disappointing significant others is what it takes to learn to express results.
Yes, at first people may have a hostile attitude towards you. The practice of allowing this possibility will free you to be more authentic, even if it is not something you are excited about.
Develop self-awareness and a sense of community to help you overcome feelings of isolation and fear of being rejected. Prioritize your own happiness. Keeping others happy is not the only way to prove your worth. Connect with people, worship, journal, meditate.
Practicing mindfulness here and now and letting go of worries about the future can lead to a greater sense of flow in the present moment. It is possible that this will lead to more confidence in your own experience.
This post was created in partnership with BetterHelp.